en-US Brampton family mourning loss of mother, grandmother killed by suspected impaired driver “None of our kids will ever know their grandmother," Brampton family mourns the loss of their mother and grandmother who were killed by a suspected impaired driver. Fri, 07 2020 00:15:20 GMT Parents Set Up #039;Pay What You Can#039; Child Care As Ont. Teachers Strike YORK, ONT. — Mother-of-two Liana Salvador-Watts has a challenge for Premier Doug Ford and Education Minister Stephen Lecce. “I would love for Ford or Lecce to just come here for a day, and not just keep these kids safe and happy, but actually teach them something,” she told HuffPost Canada Thursday. “It’s not easy!”The lactation consultant is playing teacher to some 20 kids at a legion hall west of Toronto for two days. She and a group of organizers with the pro-union Ontario Parent Action Network set up five “pay what you can″ child-care spaces in low-income neighbourhoods while elementary teachers are on strike. Most of the camps had between 20 and 30 kids registered, organizer Jess Lyons told HuffPost, except for one in Newmarket, Ont., which had 70. Earlier: Ontario elementary teachers say a deal was close before government changed its tune. Story continues after video. “We want to highlight the fact that parents and families share the same goals as our educators,” Lyons said. “We want to help each other out … and make the strike days easier.”Salvador-Watts said she’s most worried that full-day kindergarten won’t be around when her three-year-old son, Theo, starts school. Theo’s five-year-old sister, Naomi, is currently enrolled in full-day kindergarten with both a teacher and an early childhood educator (ECE).Naomi’s French vocabulary is “incredible” now and her English reading has “improved dramatically,” her mother said.It terrifies me to think that my son, when he enters the school system, that may not be there.Liana Salvador-Watts“It’s magic what they can do in a classroom. It terrifies me to think that my son, when he enters the school system, that may not be there.”Salvador-Watts hired two education workers for the York camp by collecting $10 donations from the parents who could afford it. There were four volunteers also present, doing crafts and games with the kids. One was Salvador-Watts’ neighbour, a grandmother.Ontario’s elementary teachers are staging rotating walk-outs and weekly province-wide strikes after fresh negotiations with the province fell apart last Friday. The government said it committed to keeping full-day kindergarten during negotiations last week. But the president of the Elementary Teachers’ Federation of Ontario (ETFO), Sam Hammond, said the commitment wasn’t formal. “Everything that we agreed to has to be part of the collective agreement … not a letter that is given to our general secretary in the lobby of the hotel,” Hammond told reporters Monday.ETFO is one of four major Ontario teachers’ unions staging strikes or work-to-rule campaigns right now. The government argues that the teachers are only fighting for more compensation. But the teachers say they’re taking a stand against the government’s other policies, including bigger class sizes and mandatory online learning. READ MORE... Ontario Accidentally Overpays Parents For Teachers#039; Strike Compensation ‘Shady’ Anti-Teachers’ Union Ads Might Break Election Rules: Ontario NDP Ford Says Teachers#039; Unions Are Testing His Patience The politics of it all wasn’t lost on Salvador-Watts’ campers at the legion. Many kids shouted out “strike,” when she asked them what their teachers were up to.“And why are they on strike?”“Because Justin Trudeau doesn’t pay them any money!” one child supposed. “You are so close,” Salvador-Watts answered.With a file from The Canadian Press Thu, 06 2020 21:09:21 GMT Ways To Make An Adopted Child Feel Loved When most people think about adoption, they picture bringing home an infant.But the reality is often very different, according to Cathy Murphy, the executive director of the Adoption Council of Canada and the parent of two adopted children. In fact, most of the 30,000 Canadian children and youth who are up for adoption are between the ages of eight and 18.“That means that when adopted children or older youth are joining families, they’re joining them at a much older age, and have likely lived with developmental trauma,” Murphy told HuffPost Canada. As a result, they have pretty specific needs that will have to be met by their adoptive families.All kids are different, and there’s no one singular rule that will apply to all adopted children. But Murphy shared some advice to make your adopted child feel loved.Have realistic expectationsBeing adopted into a loving family when they’re older means it’s likely that child has spent a large part of their younger childhood with caregivers who were inconsistent, neglectful or even abusive. It’s only natural your child will have a hard time trusting you at first.“Many youths who join their families don’t trust, and don’t feel safe in the world,” Murphy said. Sometimes, that manifests in disruptive behaviours, or in difficulty with emotional regulation. Some older kids will even have self-harming tendencies, she said.“We really have to be aware of some of the mental health issues that our kids are going to have, that need to be supported,” she said. “Everyone has challenges parenting, but we know that because of the childhood trauma that our kids have experienced, these are areas that we are gonna have to work on. It’s not a maybe, it’s a definite.”Watch: Simple ways to make sure you’re fostering mental health at home. Story continues after video. That doesn’t mean adopted children don’t go on to be happy and successful. But it could be a lifelong process to rebuild their trust, which has likely been eroded over many years.“Social and emotional [stability] might be a little bit delayed for them, because they’ve learned in this world that they can’t trust,” she said. “Our job is to over and over and over again show them that they can trust us.”Be flexible with your time if possibleMany adoptive parents adjust their work schedules so that they can work part-time, or will work from home so that they can be more available to their children. It’s not possible for everyone, but if it’s something that’s within a parent’s reach, it can really help the child adapt to their new environment.“Ideally we would be home for at least a year, if not longer, with the children, even if they are older,” Murphy said. “In many cases, the attachment and bond will take even longer with older children than younger ones.”Parental leave policies differ by province, but biological parents typically get more leave time than adoptive parents. Advocates and researchersare lobbying for more parental leave for parents who adopt. Kids take a long time to trust.Cathy Murphy, executive director of the Adoption Council of CanadaBe consistentShowing your child a regular, constant routine can help them feel safe, because they know what to expect. “Kids will take a long time to trust,” Murphy said. “In order to build that, you’re building in fun, consistent routines over and over again.”Establishing consistency can be as simple as making sure your child knows that when they get home from school they do homework, then have dinner, then play until bedtime. Or maybe every Friday night, there’s a family movie night. Once they get into that pattern, they’ll start seeing that they’re getting steady, stable care in a reliable environment.“Those are our goals as a parent, to make sure that they feel safe and that they can trust,” Murphy said. “Once they feel that, we’re a safe base for them to explore the rest of the world.”Nurture their interests and talentsSome kids or teens may never have been given the opportunity to spend time on things they love doing or are good at. Identifying their interests and talents shows you care, and giving them the opportunity to nurture those is an act of love.If your child likes art, for example, encourage them to draw. Make crafts with them, and show them books about art, and go on family outings to galleries. “Really embrace what their interests are, and really support that and build on that interest as a way to build attachment in your family,” Murphy said.Provide extra care around transitionsChange is usually very difficult for adopted children, particularly when it involves a loss of some kind, Murphy explained. “There are some things in our day-to-day lives that a lot of us take for granted, that our children and youth who are joining our families through adoption are going to take longer to build.” Friendships ending can reinforce children’s ideas that they aren’t loved or that they shouldn’t trust new people, for instance, so it’s a good idea to make sure your child feels cared for in other ways.“If someone in the extended family like a grandparent or a great-auntie dies, those are losses our children are going to feel a lot more acutely,” Murphy said.“Everyone feels losses, but our kids have already experienced so many losses that those can be triggered. ”The end of the school year can also lead to hard feelings. Many adopted children will have a very difficult time saying goodbye to a teacher at the end of a school year, because it can bring to mind all of the other painful goodbyes they’ve experienced.Moving, too, can be a challenge, because of how many times the child has likely already moved.“Everybody asks, ‘What do I need to do in that first year?’” Murphy said. “It’s not the first year. This is lifelong, and our children will test us at different times and transitions.”Avoid too much travel away from your childLikewise, a parent leaving on long business trips will probably be harder for an adopted child, Murphy said, because they’ve already experienced a lot of loss.It’s likely that “they’re going to be worried about the[ir parent] crashing on a plane,” Murphy said. “Things that other kids probably wouldn’t even be thinking about, they’ll be thinking about.”If travel is unavoidable, the parent should spend a lot of time and energy reinforcing the fact that they’re coming back.Don’t make overt comparisonsB.C.-based blogger Jamie Lundstrom, who’s adopted, wrote that it was sometimes hard, as a child, when people would comment on physical or social similarities between her parents and her sister, who was their biological child. Not only did this make her feel left out, but it also struck her as silly, since many kids are totally different from their biological parents.Overall, it’s never really helpful to compare adopted kids either to their families or to non-adopted kids. It’s a much better idea to focus on your child for who they are.Let them get to independence when it makes sense for themWe generally expect kids to become independent by their late teens or early 20s. But people who didn’t find a loving family until their teens aren’t likely to fit into that timeline — and that’s totally normal, Murphy said.“It may take our kids a little bit longer to separate from us and become independent, and that’s OK,” she said. For so long, “it was our job to make them feel dependent upon us.”There’s nothing wrong with adopted kids waiting a little longer to move out of the house, or deciding they don’t want to go away to university. They’re still relying on the stability their parents have provided them, which is a testament to how helpful that’s been for their development.“If your kids need a little bit more time, that’s OK. They were without you for a really long time.”Just show upNo parent is perfect, and the process of making a child feel safe and comfortable after years of instability can be a difficult one. But being consistently available to your child, and offering love and support, are the best and most important parts of parenting an adopted child.“Show them they can count on you,” Murphy said. “Our kids can thrive if they have parents who are really consistent and can give them routine and can always show up.”MORE ABOUT LOVE 10 Things To Know About Adoption In Canada How Parents Can Help Kids Of Colour Navigate Race And Racism At School Paternity Leave Helps Relationships Last Longer, Study Suggests Common Mistakes Parents Make When Talking To Kids About Careers Also on HuffPost: Wed, 05 2020 23:17:06 GMT Yarn made from human skin could soon be stitching up your wounds It may sound like a gruesome detail from a dystopian movie, but a team of scientists believe yarn grown from human skin could soon be used to stitch up surgical patients and repair organs. Wed, 05 2020 18:20:47 GMT Farm income to fall by up to 12% due to the carbon tax: APAS APAS is calling for all farm expenses to be exempt from the carbon tax after a new report suggests farmers could lose up to 12 per cent their net income to the measure. Tue, 04 2020 12:00:15 GMT Liberal budget could focus more on personal happiness, less on country’s financial condition Minister Mona Fortier has been urged to find measures that will 'better incorporate quality of life measurements into government decision-making and budgeting' Wed, 29 2020 13:00:08 GMT How Worried Should Canadian Parents Be About Coronavirus? Every day, there are more and more stories about the spread of coronavirus, a pathogen that causes cold- and flu-like symptoms and can sometimes lead to a life-threatening lung infection.This version of the virus was first reported to the World Health Organization (WHO) in late December, and, as of press time, has killed 106 people globally. But it’s easy to get caught up in the statistics and overestimate just how big a threat we’re actually facing. The current risk level is ‘extremely low’For the last few weeks, Toronto pediatrician Dr. Dina Kulik has been fielding questions about coronavirus from concerned parents “all day, every day,” she told HuffPost Canada.But she wants to reassure them that the risk of their kids contracting coronavirus is “extremely low.”“It’s not a real risk at the moment in Canada,” she said.Only two cases of coronavirus has been confirmed by Canada’s national lab in Winnipeg: a Toronto man in his 50s who had recently traveled to Wuhan, China, where the virus originated, and his wife. There’s one “presumed” case of coronavirus in B.C., but it hasn’t yet been confirmed by the National Microbiology Lab in Winnipeg. Other suspected cases are being tested elsewhere in the country.Initial reports said the first people who contracted coronavirus had recently visited the Huanan Wholesale Seafood Market in Wuhan, where it’s thought the virus originated. It’s believed that transmissions of coronavirus are still first and secondary; either contracted by people who visited the market or who were in contact with someone who visited the market. The market, by the way, has been closed since Jan. 1.However, a group of Chinese researchers who looked at the first cases of the virus say in a new study published in The Lancet that there is no link between the market and the first case of the virus in China. And, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “a growing number of patients reportedly have not had exposure to animal markets, indicating person-to-person spread is occurring. At this time, it’s unclear how easily or sustainably this virus is spreading between people.”But no one has gotten it third- or fourth-hand, York University global health and law professor Steven Hoffman previously told HuffPost Canada.As of press time, there are about 4,690 cases of coronavirus worldwide. But the vast majority of those — more than 4,600 — are in mainland China.“It’s tragic what’s happening in China,” Kulik said. But in Canada, she said, “I don’t think people need to be panicking.”The coronavirus outbreak is different situation than the SARS outbreak of 2003, said Kulik: where SARS was concerned, one infected person quickly passed on the illness to 10 and then 100 people. The fact that the only Canadians suspected of having coronavirus are people who have recently been to Wuhan is “very reassuring” to Kulik.Canadian kids are more likely to get the flu than coronavirusParents afraid of coronavirus should refocus their energy, Kulik said, to the plain old flu.“I would love to turn the conversation towards what we can actually prevent, what truly does kill kids every year, and that’s an illness we can prevent with the flu shot,” she said.Influenza kills an average of 3,500 Canadians every year, and young children are especially at risk. 258 kids under 16 years old were hospitalized with the flu in the three-week period between Dec. 15, 2019 and Jan. 4, 2020, according to the Public Health Agency of Canada.It’s true that we don’t know exactly what the future holds for coronavirus. But we do know definitively that right now, influenza is a much bigger risk to Canadian children, Kulik said, “in terms of contracting it, in terms of getting sick from it, and in terms of dying from it.”Factors that might put your child at riskIf your child is exhibiting cold and flu symptoms and answers yes to the below questions, Kulik suggests going to the hospital right away for further testing.Have you or your child been to Wuhan in the last month?Have you or your child been in close contact with anyone who’s been to Wuhan in the last month?Have you or your child been in close contact with anyone suspected of having coronavirus? How can you protect yourself from coronavirus?As with any other viral infection, regular and thorough hand-washing is extremely important. (Reminder: a thorough hand wash involves hot water and anti-bacterial hand soap, and lasts at least 15 seconds.)Here are some other ways to protect yourself and your children:Use anti-bacterial hand washWash your hands every time you touch your mouth, nose, or faceStay home if you’re feeling sickDon’t send your kids to school or daycare if they have cold-like symptoms, or if there are other sick kids in their vicinitySneeze or cough into your elbow, not your hands Before you panic, remember ...Read credible news sources when it comes to coronavirus, Kulik suggests. People without medical training sharing their theories about the virus on social media often “don’t know what they’re talking about.”If you’re trying to prevent the spread of the flu, you’re also preventing the spread of coronavirus.The current statistics about coronavirus show that people with a weakened immune system, including older people, and people with chronic health problems, have a higher risk of severe disease that can be caused by coronavirus.If you haven’t been to Wuhan, China, your risk is much lower.There’s a ton of misinformation spreading about the disease, including lots of conspiracy theories and, unfortunately, lots of racism that’s totally counterproductive.Getting your child a flu shot is one of the most significant ways you can ensure their good health.Also on HuffPost:RELATED The New Coronavirus Has Reached Canada. Here#039;s What To Know Canadians Are At Low Risk Of Contracting New Virus From China What You Need To Know About This Year#039;s Flu Vaccine 1st Presumed Coronavirus Case Reported In B.C. Everything You Need To Know When Your Kid Has A Fever 3 Flu Strains Are Hitting Canadians At The Same Time Right Now: Doctor 5 Easy Tips For You To Prevent Spreading The Flu Canadians Should Avoid Travel To China’s Coronavirus Epicentre, Feds Warn Tue, 28 2020 21:36:09 GMT B.C. Teen Leads Petition To Change NBA Logo To Kobe Bryant One of the greatest basketball players to ever play could become the inspiration for the next NBA logo if a B.C. teenager gets his way.Kobe Bryant died Sunday in Calabasas, Calif., at the age of 41. The retired five-time NBA champion with the Los Angeles Lakers was travelling with his 13-year-old daughter, Gianna, and seven others when their helicopter crashed, killing all nine people on board. The tragedy shocked sports fans all over the world, leaving some to wonder how they could immortalize Bryant’s greatness beyond just words. RELATED Basketball Legend Kobe Bryant Dies In Helicopter Crash Kobe Bryant#039;s Daughter Hoped To Carry On Her Dad#039;s Basketball Legacy Alicia Keys Brings Out Boyz II Men To Honour Kobe Bryant At Grammys Toronto Raptors Pay Tribute To Kobe Bryant Jim Carrey#039;s Touching Portrait Of Kobe Bryant Says So Much With So Little To honour his legacy as a determined, hard-working athlete with the heart of a champion, Vancouver’s 16-year-old Nikyar Moghtader started an online petition to change the NBA’s logo to feature Bryant.His initiative is called “for the Black Mamba” and it’s quickly picking up steam.“I wish Kobe was still here and I never had to make this petition to begin with,” Moghtader wrote in the petition’s description. “But sadly that isn’t the case, my condolences go out to the Bryant family and everyone who was involved in this accident.” Former NBA player Jamal Crawford also showed support for the idea in a Twitter post on Sunday and he wasn’t alone.Kobe has to be the new NBA logo.....— Tue, 28 2020 15:19:28 GMT How Ontario#039;s Teachers#039; Strikes Could End — But Won#039;t Anytime Soon TORONTO — There hasn’t been another Canadian teachers’ strike quite like this one. Ontario’s teachers, all of whom are currently engaged in either rotating strikes or work-to-rule campaigns, are enjoying unusually strong public support, said Johanna Weststar, an associate professor at London, Ont.’s Western University who studies industrial relations and labour issues.“I think teachers can very easily start feeling embattled in these disputes,” she told HuffPost Canada. “And in the past there wasn’t always support for teachers.”Public sector strikes are public relations battles more than anything else, Weststar said, so winning public opinion is key. “It may be unfortunate to say … but many times it does come down to power and influence. It’s not necessarily about the merits of an argument.”The teachers’ disagreements with Premier Doug Ford’s government over class sizes and online learning aren’t so complex that they couldn’t be resolved through bargaining, Weststar said. But the dispute is dragging on. “For the teachers, they’re trying to move the government away from mandatory online learning, from the increase in class sizes ... and they’re not prepared to concede,” Weststar said. “The government has introduced a wage violation bill [that limits raises for public workers] and they’ve come in with proposals for fairly dramatic changes [to education] and they’re not prepared to back away from those right now.”“As long as that’s happening, there’s no resolution, right?”Other public sector strikes in the past have been resolved with bargaining, arbitration and back-to-work legislation, but Weststar said a solution using one of these tactics doesn’t seem imminent in Ontario.Good old-fashioned bargainingIn 2014, a dispute between the British Columbia government and teachers was resolved with a six-day marathon bargaining session, but only after the teachers’ strike stretched into its fourth month. One school year ended early and another started late because of the strikes.The teachers ended up capitulating on some demands after public support for their action eroded. When rotating strikes began in May of that year, the teachers were supported by about 41 per cent of the public with 30 per cent backing the government. But by August, the numbers evened out with 36 per cent supporting the teachers and 35 per cent supporting the government. In Ontario this week, nearly twice as many residents are supporting the teachers as Ford’s government.Sam Hammond, president of Ontario’s elementary teachers’ union, said he wants to reach an agreement through bargaining but doesn’t think that’ll happen anytime soon.“As of today, I don’t see how it’s possible because the government is not setting dates and we’re not at the table,” he told HuffPost by phone Thursday as he drove back to Toronto after spending the day on picket lines. The government maintains that it’s ready to bargain but the unions are the ones resisting. ArbitrationLabour disputes can be resolved with arbitration, where an independent third party helps two sides come to an agreement. The arbitrator sometimes sets a deadline for negotiations, after which they’ll impose a deal that tries to balance both parties’ demands. Arbitration is sometimes forced as part of back-to-work legislation. Ford’s government sent a dispute between Ontario Power Generation and the Power Workers’ Union to arbitration with legislation in 2018 when the government also blocked the union from striking. Weststar said arbitrators often maintain the status quo in collective agreements, so they’re unlikely to settle disputes like the ones at play in Ontario. Class sizes and online learning are more complex than issues like salary, she said.“Arbitrators aren’t in the business of drastic change ... It’s quite outside of the arbitrators’ skill set, frankly, but also out of their professional interest to be putting binding rulings in on issues that are so complicated like that.”Because arbitrators often keep things the way they are, the government could lose its fight on class sizes and online learning if the dispute goes that route, Weststar said. Back-to-work legislationThe government could also force teachers back to work and impose a contract with legislation, Hammond said, or it could use legislation to end the strike and send the negotiations to arbitrator in the meantime.“There’s a whole bunch of ways that that could work,” he said.Ford has said that forcing teachers back to work with legislation is a “last step.” Weststar said it’s unlikely that the government will force teachers to end rotating strikes and work-to-rule campaigns, but that could change if they escalate to full-time, province-wide strikes. “Governments that impose back-to-work legislation come under political fire ... The opposition parties will immediately start accusing the government of not allowing collective bargaining to take place,” she said.“But I think if the teachers ... all went to a full withdrawal of services, I don’t suspect it would be very long before back-to-work legislation.”READ MORE... Ford Says Teachers#039; Unions Are Testing His Patience 57% Of Ontarians Side With Teachers Over Ford Government: Poll Ontario Teachers Launch Week Of Rotating Strikes Across The Province Sat, 25 2020 13:00:23 GMT Loon Lake man faces child luring, porn charges A 26-year-old man faces several child porn-related charges after a tip from concerned grandparents. Wed, 22 2020 22:32:22 GMT